Everyone will experience many different relationships in their life, most of which do not have a good ending. Only by learning to grow from failed love experiences can we make progress. So what have you learned from failed relationships?
1. Trying too hard to get love in love
Often in relationships Most people who exert too much force have inner self-confidence, overwhelming insecurities, extreme fear of losing relationships, anxiety about intimacy and a desire to be loved, and are always trying to grab something.
If you try too hard in love, it will only make you lose your charm and attraction in the eyes of the other person. Good restraint can make feelings flow smoothly.
2. What you feel is inappropriate at the beginning of a relationship is largely inappropriate
At the beginning of a relationship, most of the problems between you that you were worried about will eventually disappear. Become a real hindrance to your relationship.
Don’t be stubborn in love, I’ll do it, you can do whatever you want. If you find that you are absolutely intolerable in a relationship and it has become a thorn in your heart, it is best to let go as soon as possible.
3. There is no unrequited giving in love
Even if a person loves you willingly, I am willing to give my heart and soul to you, but can you really turn a blind eye?
This "repay" can be a "thank you" or a smile and touch from the heart.
In love, whoever is the active party cannot mean that he can always passively wait to enjoy the love and benefits brought by the other party.
Relationships between people must be mutual and balanced, and relationships that do not ask for anything in return are more likely to cause problems.
4. Communication in love is particularly important
It is too easy for girls to "act" in love. A particularly typical example is having a bad temper and breaking out at any time; otherwise, there is a cold war at every turn.
The cold war is particularly emotional, and many people like to use this trick to defeat the enemy in a quarrel.
Also, many girls are accustomed to using this trick to force boys to give in. By the way, they can confirm whether they are the dominant power and moral high ground in the relationship.
Many boys are good at persuading, and they will try to save face and take the initiative to reconcile and apologize.
This is not because you really say that you are wrong, but because you still want to maintain this relationship and really care about you.
In the above example, the same is true even if the roles are reversed.
Let’s just say it this way, when you are in love, don’t worry about the cold war between boys and girls (and it’s not a short-term one, you stay overnight, and you don’t want to talk to them no matter how much you try to persuade them).Basically, even if the other person comes back to beg you a few times, he will basically start to make a cross in his heart.
When the points accumulate to a certain extent and the relationship is consumed to a certain extent, it is not far from breaking up.
When problems arise, sit down and have a good communication and a better attitude, and you can avoid a lot of quarrels and conflicts.
5. The other half is not your whole life
Many people easily become excessive in love. selfless dedication, and finally lost himself completely.
I can’t wait to be with each other 24 hours a day. In the end, everyone can’t learn, can’t concentrate on work, the rhythm of life is disrupted, and the progress of life is in a mess.
People who have been single will find that although breaking up is painful, the single period after the breakup is the best golden period for self-improvement for many people.
Therefore, it is very important to maintain independence in love, both material and spiritual matters.
Don’t live your life with your partner as your whole life, everyone has his or her own life.
But when two people are on the right track together, much of your self-confidence comes from your personal achievements in other fields and the rest of your life.
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