Many boys don’t know how to take the initiative when chasing girls, and will only gain the favor of girls by spending money and energy. Even if they do this, they will already be at a disadvantage in the relationship and have no initiative. It’s easy to get dumped by girls. So how do you take the initiative when chasing girls?
1. Learn to refuse
Will not refuse what girls propose Requesting is one of the biggest taboos when chasing girls.
If you will not refuse a girl’s request and always respond to her request, then you will become a person who can give and take away from her. Can a person who can be taken away from others stand in the same position as her? Obviously not.
In the relationship between men and women, women always like strong and imposing men. Men who are too submissive are not good qualities in the eyes of women. A man who can't say no to a girl really has no status in love.
Therefore, we must first learn to reject girls reasonably, so that girls can understand your attitude and know that you have your own ideas and are not someone who can be controlled casually.
But why are there so many brothers who find it difficult to say no to girls?
The main reason is that girls are angry, cold war, or even leave you, right? In fact, this is nothing. So scary.
As long as your rejection is reasonable, a girl who really likes you will definitely understand you. For example, if your monthly income is only a few thousand yuan, then a girl will ask you to spend 5,000 yuan to buy a bag just because she likes something. This is obviously beyond the normal consumption range. Even if a girl gets angry at this kind of rejection, it's basically just a show of wanting you to care about her more.
If a woman can’t even understand you and is really angry, she can only say that she either doesn’t really like you, or she doesn’t understand how normal people should live their lives at all. There is a princess. The disease can kill the princess, so why not let such a woman get out of here?
2. Don’t confess your feelings easily
The establishment of a relationship between a man and a woman is a matter of course. If you are not mature enough to develop with her, then confessing means putting your needs for her on the table. A smart woman will not miss this opportunity. of.
You like her, so you will not reject her easily. This is the most basic logic, so after a girl confesses her love, she will make good use of this relationship to influence your behavior. In this case, it means that you will be led by her nose.
Therefore, as long as you can be sure that a girl likes you, the more ambiguous the relationship between you and her, the more beneficial it will be to you. If a girl doesn't know whether you have feelings for her, she will increase her investment in you driven by a sense of need, respond to your requests, and boo you.Cold asks for warmth.
This is the advantage of having the initiative. When you take the initiative, you can also experience the feeling of a goddess being kneeled and licked.
3. Learn to lead
In fact, girls have difficulty choosing, and they don’t like to do it for small things. Killing a bunch of brain cells, so in the relationship between men and women, they always like the feeling of men arranging things properly.
Then when pursuing a girl, the two biggest things are dating and eating. If you can do the following, you will give her a very comfortable experience.
Dating: What to ask for, whether it is to eat or watch a movie, where to go to play, what to eat or which theater to go to watch a movie, etc. These things about dating are also very troublesome for girls.
So we’d better not ask girls: Where do you want to go, what do you want to eat, etc. What a boy has to do is to think about all this, and then tell her where to go and what to do.
Ordering: If you push the menu to a girl and let her do all the ordering by herself, then she will feel a headache and even think you are a bit ungentlemanly.
The correct approach is to first let her see if there is anything she likes to eat (don’t say you can order the food), and after she has seen what she wants to eat, you can do the rest. Decide. For example, if she didn't order a drink, then order some according to your own ideas.
Don’t ask her. Except for a few girls who are very averse to mangoes and the like, she can basically accept most of the drinks you order. But strictly speaking, you still have to consider some details. For example, if a girl is fat, she should not order milk tea with high sugar content. Girls will almost never refuse watermelon juice and apple juice.
This method is to let girls get used to your existence and gradually rely on you. You must know that dependence has a strong inertia. When dependence forms a habit, she will have many problems. Prioritize your thoughts and decisions.
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