In the process of getting along with girls, many boys will unconsciously preach to girls in a reasonable way, although the starting point is to care about girls. But she doesn't necessarily appreciate such concern, and is even a little disgusted.
Why can’t you reason with girls?
1. Girls are dominated by emotions. Your reasoning is more that the method does not contain emotions, and girls naturally don't like it.
2. Affected by the poisonous chicken soup on the Internet, I believe that boys should be unconditionally good to girls and follow what girls say.
3. Girls are extremely insecure and think that your reasoning is an act of alienating her, so they will naturally not accept it.
4. It is difficult to communicate. What girls want to hear and what you say are no longer on the same channel.
The education most boys receive is exam-oriented education, which is education for exams. It is easy to form problems after long-term education. Logical thinking, like to solve problems with thinking.
Girls are inherently emotional and like to use rational thinking to look at problems, so if you try to use logical thinking to reason with girls, it will definitely not make sense, because what they want is not to solve the problem. The answer is emotional comfort.
Therefore, when getting along with girls, never reason with girls at any time.
Some boys may have a problem. If they can’t reason with girls, how should they persuade girls on some issues? Can they just obey her blindly? Of course not. Let’s take a look at ways to persuade girls besides being reasonable.
What are the ways to persuade girls?
1. Understand the needs of girls and respond to her needs< /p>
Girls are dominated by emotions. In chatting, you have to explore the emotions in girls’ words, such as:
1) Oh, um, good: this type of short reply, It means that the girl is bored or your topic has caused the girl's discomfort. Then the girl's needs here are companionship and joy, and you need to talk to the girl in a targeted manner.
2) Send an emoticon: This kind of playful reply shows that the girl is in a good mood. If the girl is interested in your topic, you should continue to delve into the topic and deepen the attraction.
3) It took a long time to reply: The girl here is busy or not interested in what you say. The best way is to stop pestering the girl to chat, retreat in time, reduce the frequency of chatting, and chat again Discover girls’ interests.
2. Control the demand for girls and control emotions
There is a saying that has always been believed on major networks and forums: "Anyone who reasons with girls will definitely not have a girlfriend." Driven by this idea, many boys will admit their mistakes even if they know that the girl made a mistake. This will only make the relationship between you and the girl unequal, and you will gradually lose the right to speak in future interactions.
The correct approach is to control the demand for girls and never compromise on some principled issues.
3. Use "we" as the starting point to appease girls' needs
The purpose of reasoning with girls is Solving problems But if you want to solve girls' problems, you need to pay attention to the way you reason and learn to look at problems from the perspective of "we" instead of "I".
Learn to be responsible for yourself and your partner. When conflicts occur, learning to deal with them shows that solving problems will make us happier in the long run.
4. Listen more to girls
After having a dispute with a girl, many people think that I can just talk. In fact, cold violence in love is more deadly. You have to What you do is learn to listen, and then express your observations based on what the girl says (without judging or evaluating) + express your feelings (happy, scared, fearful, etc.) + say what needs (or values, desires, etc.) lead to that feeling + propose Request (say what you want).
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