After learning that the girlfriend they like has a boyfriend, I believe most boys will choose to give up the pursuit and become friends. But if you only learn that a girl has a boyfriend after you confess your love to her, this kind of embarrassing What should you do in this situation?
If you choose to stay away from this girl forever, then no matter how you deal with it No problem.
But if you still want to be friends with her and wait for her to be single again, then you need to check yourself first and how you confessed to her at that time. It was when the two of you were not familiar with each other that you fell in love with her at first sight. Or maybe you and she have been friends for a while and know each other to a certain extent. I even felt that the other person also liked me, so I found a time that I thought was appropriate to express my love.
What is the difference between these two situations?
If you confess your love to a girl when both of you are not familiar with each other yet, and the girl refuses when she says she has a boyfriend, We can't blame us for the opacity of information, so our relationship with girls won't become particularly tense.
If we don’t cause any substantial trouble to the other party, the two of us can just pretend that this never happened and get along as normal.
If you two have been friends for a while and you don’t know that she has a boyfriend, this is actually Most of them are girls’ problems. It’s not because she hasn’t mentioned to you that she has a boyfriend, but she must have done many confusing behaviors:
For example, she often talks to you When they meet alone, two people talk about everything together.
Or she may accept the gift you gave her with peace of mind, and show that she is looking forward to the next time.
We won’t discuss the specific right and wrong here, but when girls do this, it is often easy for boys to misunderstand.
Although it is not recommended that you continue to have anything to do with her at this time, Shugen also knows that you will not give up on this girl easily.
So we need to adjust our mentality through the following two steps, maybe there will be a chance to be together.
The first step is to end the awkward relationship and temporarily withdraw from it
Some friends may think that it is already done anyway I confessed my feelings to the girl, and since she rejected me because she had a boyfriend and not because of my problems, I might still have a chance if I work hard. But don't think so.
Make it clear about your current situation. The girl has a boyfriend! Although she may not want to lose you as a friend, if you have to force her to choose between a boyfriend and a friend, she will most likely I'm also on my boyfriend's side.
At this time, the tighter you chase her, the more you push her towards her boyfriend. Whether you completely cut off contact with a girl depends on how much you like her.
If you like her only moderately, you don’t think it’s necessary to be together. It doesn't matter to you whether we are friends or not.
Friends who feel troubled must like the girl very much. Even if he knew that the other party had a boyfriend, he still showed that he was willing to wait for her.
In this situation, you must calm down. Don’t continue to contact the other party first, and calm down each other. Remember one sentence, a short separation is for a better reunion.
The second step is to actively adjust your mentality and be prepared to restore the relationship
Temporarily get rid of this relationship After you are separated, you can also calm down and think about why you have to return to the previous friendship.
To be honest, there is a high probability that you two will not be friends, because from the beginning, you had no intention of being friends with her.
Therefore, you will naturally not be willing to be just friends with her.
We should take a longer-term view. After all, for you, "together" is the ultimate goal.
"Being friends" is just one of the ways.
Therefore, during the period of disconnection, whether it is to be ready to make her eyes shine when we meet again, or to meet a better person, we must try our best to improve Own.
After adjusting your mentality and self-improvement, if you still miss her, you can wait for her to become single again, then appear in front of her in time and give her a shoulder.
But if her relationship has been relatively stable, the two of them should just say goodbye. Because there is no way for you to be together, and it is impossible to lie to yourself and become friends with each other.
Of course, the more common situation is that during the time of disconnection, you meet someone who is more suitable for you. At this time, you look back and realize that the person you loved at the beginning was like a gust of wind or a dream.
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